| When Matthew D. Kim hears that siblings are estranged, his heart hurts. It’s not just that Kim feels empathy or wishes families could get along. Kim’s younger brother, Timothy, was murdered eight years ago. The brothers were very different and didn’t always get along, but they found a way to share life together. Now, Kim sees how precious that was.
Reflecting on the state of families and friendships in modern culture, Kim writes, “We are divided over every topic under the sun—politics, science, immigration, gender, race, climate—to the point where we no longer speak to each other … Aren’t treasured relationships with our family members and friends worth fighting for?”
Kim goes on to outline three tools for developing the empathy necessary in relationships where conflict abounds. He encourages Christians to consider whether they’ve turned ideologies into idols and to cultivate their willingness to listen to the perspectives of others. Through listening, reading widely, and prayer, Kim hopes believers can forge a path they can walk with their friends and family members.
There may be times in our lives when taking a break from a relationship, or even severing one, becomes necessary. But before we arrive at that conclusion, may we ask God to give us the humility and empathy to find the best way forward. |
