But I have a different view. Wealth building, like quantum mechanics, often operates according to laws that seem contrary to what is “obvious.” Paying the tab, in other words, might actually make you richer. Because the $13 you spend on your lunch partner might give you a return of much more than $13. Your generosity might signal to him that you are the kind of person he can trust. It might tell him you are someone who is willing to give first without demanding recompense. If he sees you in that light, a relationship might be seeded by this small investment on your part. A year later — it is possible to imagine — he might recommend you for a promotion when he himself gets promoted to head up your department. It depends on your assessment of his character. If he impresses you as a person who believes — as you do — in reciprocity, you will know that the $13 is a wise investment. If, on the other hand, he shows you that he is a person who believes in exploiting others, the wise move might be to pay only your share of the bill and not develop the relationship any further. In either case, you are richer. In the first case, you are richer in a potentially lucrative business relationship. In the second case, you are richer in knowledge — knowledge about him that can help you avoid trouble or seize opportunity in the future. I am making two points: First, almost every event in your life is an opportunity for you to become richer. And second, by seeing every situation as a wealth-building opportunity, you can take the actions that will gradually make you very rich. The people I call “instinctive wealth builders” understand this on a gut level. They see every transaction — social, personal, or business — as a wealth-related opportunity. They are always angling, even subconsciously, to increase their wealth. Most of us aren’t born with that instinct. 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