Lashing Out | by Madisyn Taylor Intense emotions demand intense modes of expression. While there are many outlets for the feelings typically deemed positive, however, there are far fewer methods for constructively coping with anger, frustration, fear, sadness, or stress. Consequently, such feelings can cause us to believe that we are no longer in control of our emotional state. Backed into a mental corner, we may lash out at the first individual we encounter. Most of us will quickly discover that our misdirected outpouring of fury has not relieved the pressure of our pain. Powerful emotions are like the lava in a volcano poised to erupt--held in check with nothing but an eroding layer of calm. Within us lies the power to direct the flood of feeling that surges forth by channeling it into productive, artistic, or laborious pursuits. Retaking control of our emotions at their height can be difficult because our already negative feelings can convince us that others are deserving of our wrath. But if we consciously look for healthier ways of expressing what we feel, we can both safely dispel our pain and use the energy of that pain to add value to our lives. Anger and sadness, for example, can become the inspiration that induces us to dedicate ourselves to bringing about the change we wish to see in the world. If we act rather than react, we can become effective agents of positive transformation. When we channel our frustration or feelings of stress into outside-the-box thinking and proactive exploits, we are more apt to discover solutions to the issues that initially left us stymied. And if we view fear as a signal that we need to reexamine our circumstances rather than a cue to flee, we may gain new and unexpected insight into our lives. Channeling your emotions into constructive action can also prevent you from engaging in cyclical rumination in which you repeatedly relive the situation, event, or expectation that originally sparked your feelings in your mind's eye. Since you are focused on a goal, even if your ambition is merely to better understand yourself, your pain is no longer being fed by your intellectual and emotional energy and quickly ebbs away. You not only avoid lashing out at others, but you also actively take part in your own healing process while honestly acknowledging and honoring your feelings. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Ragini Michaels "The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off."―Joe Klaas Wherever anger arises in your life, it is always in relationship to something or someone: your boss, partner, children, computer, the internet, driving in rush hour traffic, sales clerks when shopping, or waiting on the phone in the hope you'll finally get through to an actual person. Your ability to transform anger and its accompanying urge to argue, rests in the relationship you create between you and these kinds of events. This is the key to your freedom from HAVING to express your powerful life energy in bursts of negativity. You can dramatically increase your joy in living when you know the secret of redirecting anger toward a positive and graceful communication filled with your presence, awareness, acceptance, and love. It is common to experience many irritating situations in a single day. And if we don't know what to do with our irritation, annoyance, or frustration, it blossoms into the oh-too-common 'power struggle'. We unconsciously fall into the belief that if we are finally recognized as being right, we are paid back for all the 'wrongs' done to us during the day -- these include a lack of recognition of our needs, a sense of being disrespected, and a sense of having no power to change the situations we encounter. This course will increase your ability to approach anger in a new way and to find happiness in your relationships -- whether at home, at the office, or with yourself in the privacy of your own mind. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Skinny Thinking: Taking Off The Weight 2. Fit and Fierce Over 40 3. Overcoming Body Stiffness 4. 21 Day Yoga Shred For Men 5. From Codependent to Independent 6. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 7. Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility 8. HIIT Yoga Fusion 9. Conscious Parenting 10. 21 Day Plant-Based Plan for a Lighter, Happier YOU!
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