(The Daily Rumpus) Love Doesn't Need a Holiday

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I'm not especially a fan of Valentine's Day. For years, I ignored it. I've been with my partner since our mid-teens, and so we've had our share of goo

   

I'm not especially a fan of Valentine's Day. For years, I ignored it. I've been with my partner since our mid-teens, and so we've had our share of gooey and romantic Valentine's Days. But Valentine's Day is truly a "Hallmark holiday," and is as much a product of American capitalism as anything else.

Still, it's nice to celebrate love. My three-year-old son is excited to exchange Valentine's Day cards with his friends at preschool. He helped me decorate the cards (and envelopes) with stickers, giving one friend trucks, another spaceships and planets, and another dancing bears. He took so much joy in knowing what each friend would like most.

We all love-a person, a book, a movie, a song. Even when we're sad or lonely or lost, we love. Perhaps especially then. Love is complicated. Love is difficult. But love is also as simple as knowing your friend's favorite stickers. As simple as watching your child love small acts of kindness.

Love doesn't need a holiday. Love is too overwhelming to be contained in a day, too pervasive to fit within twenty-four hours, too ordinary and extraordinary, all at once, to be nailed down to a date on the calendar.

I don't believe all the ideas about love that I used to. I don't know what I believe about love now. But I hope that love can be as joyful for us as it is for a three-year-old celebrating Valentine's Day.

How will you be celebrating Valentine's Day tomorrow?

Love,
Marisa

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