The Feeling Underneath | by Madisyn Taylor Many people suffer with the tendency to apologize all the time, chronically, for everything. On the one hand, apologizing is a social convention that keeps interactions between people polite, and in that way it can be very helpful. On the other hand, if we find ourselves apologizing for everything, it might be time to look at why we feel compelled to say "I'm sorry" so often. Ultimately, saying you're sorry is saying that you are responsible for something that has gone wrong in the situation. Whether it's negotiating a parking spot, moving through the aisles of the supermarket, or reaching for what you want, there are times when sorry is the right thing to say. But there are other times when "excuse me" is more accurate. Sometimes saying you're sorry is like saying that the other person in the equation has more of a right to be here than you do. Of course, it's true that using the word sorry can simply be an innocuous way of defusing tension. However, if you find that you say sorry all the time, you might want to look a little deeper and see where in your psyche that might be coming from. If it's a pattern, breaking it may simply take some awareness and practice. The first step is observing yourself each time you say it, without being hard on yourself about it. Throughout your day simply notice when you apologize. At first, you might be surprised to see that you do it even more than you first realized. After a day or two of simply observing, try to tune in to what it is you are feeling right before you say it. You might be feeling threatened, embarrassed, intensely anxious, or a variety of other feelings. Over time, try to stop yourself before the words come out and just be with the feeling that's there. You may recognize it as one from your childhood, one that's been with you for a long time. The more you are able to see it, the freer you will be not to be sorry all the time. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Sarah Rector When was the last time you did a focused stretching session for your hip flexors and hamstrings? Never, maybe? The thing is, if you're someone who sits for 4 or more hours a day, the prolonged sitting is actually causing your hip flexors to tighten up--which can lead to lower back problems and ongoing pain. And, did you know that when your hamstrings are too tight, your muscles rotate your pelvis backward? The truth is, most people overlook the importance of stretching their hips and hamstrings regularly. And while it isn't necessary to fit in a full workout each week that only targets those areas, it's super easy and highly beneficial to add in a few exercises that strengthen these often neglected and underrated muscles. Especially when you consider all the added benefits--including decreasing stress, reducing pain and stiffness, and improving your circulation and range of motion. With this brand new course from fitness expert, Sarah Rector, you'll get all the simple hip and hamstrings stretching solutions you need in 7 days--in less than fifteen minutes a day! Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Positive Affirmations To Start Your Day 2. 21 Day Low Impact Body Blast 3. Go Sleeveless in 14 Days 4. Reframing Your Narrative About Challenging Relationships 5. If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? 6. End Self-Sabotage with Meridian Tapping (EFT) 7. What Women Need to Know About Men 8. Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships 9. Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility 10. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back!
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