When Your Spouse's Calling Collides with Yours

When Your Spouse's Calling Collides With Yours

Dorcas Cheng-Tozun and her husband moved to a different country to pursue their calling. Dorcas fully supported her husband’s dreams and entrepreneurial drive as he worked to start up a business overseas. “I convinced myself that it was my dream, too,” she writes in this week’s featured article.

But over time, Dorcas felt anxious, worn out, and frustrated. She began to realize that her husband’s calling and passion was different than her own. Along with this slow realization, she found herself grappling with a tough question that many married couples face: “God has called us together in marriage, but what callings does he have for each of us? How do we balance—and support—our distinct gifts and purposes?”

How would you answer this question? Perhaps you’ve grappled with it yourself as you have gone through seasons of putting your own dreams “on hold” for your spouse’s career or vice versa. In “Can One Marriage Support Two Callings,” Cheng-Tozun looks more deeply into this important issue, discussing the tension couples encounter as they support one other in following each spouse’s individual sense of vocation.